You’re probably asking, "Is there really a way to prepare for menopause?" The answer is yes and no. It’s not like you can go to your calendar and write "menopause" on September 22, 2025. It’s not that easy, although most women sure wished it was; however, although we may not know the exact date that menopause will begin, we can prepare for it by being informed and learning as much as possible about the subject.
From the time of your first period until your 40’s, your ovaries produce estrogen in response to monthly follicle maturation. Both estrogen and progesterone are responsible for the monthly menstrual cycle and both are produced using male hormones. During her reproductive years, a woman’s ovaries produce more estrogen than testosterone. As menopause nears, the estrogen level declines while the male hormone levels stay about the same. Lacking former levels of estrogen to counteract them, hair growth on the face and oily skin may begin to crop up during the years right before menopause in some women.
As Age Reach 40, Changes Happen
A woman is born with approximately one half million eggs. Over time, that number decreases as some are reabsorbed back into the ovarian lining. As a woman ages get older, the number of eggs available for release also diminishes. As a result, from about age 40, a woman’s period will begin to change.
In her mid-40s a woman becomes perimenopausal. The period of time from perimenopause to postmenopause can take 5 to 10 years. A full decade before you become menopausal, changes are happening in your body that begins to set the stage for the transition from reproductive to nonreproductive states. Up to 50f women are beginning to experience hot flashes in the two-year period before cessation of menstruation. Menstruation at this time is also likely to be erratic. During this period a woman is considered to be perimenopausal.
As soon as you begin noticing changes in your menstrual cycle, especially if you’re in your 40’s, you should consult with your gynecologist, who will probably want to run a battery of tests. One of the tests your doctor should perform is a blood test that will check your hormone levels.
But change is certain. There is no predicting your own passage through menopause; it may be long or short, bumpy or smooth. Nor can you foresee the time when you will begin it.
Whenever and however menopausal changes appear, it can be valuable to have information beforehand and while you’re experiencing menopause. Studies have shown that women who are prepared to take charge of their own health care tend to do best through the menopausal passage. Information can function as your survival kit as you negotiate your way through this very important change in your life.
About the author:
Alicia Simpson is a mother and housewife who experience menopause. Her new guide book: "Menopause without Stress" is to tell women that menopause is part of life you cannot avoid. Visit her Website MenopauseWithoutStress.com at http://www.menopausewithoutstress.com
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Does Your Childhood Hold You Back?
Have you come to a point in your life and got stuck and unable to move on?
I’ve been shocked recently to discover how many women and men have suffered one trauma or another during childhood, in particular the amount that have been through abuse.
The experience of abuse, at an age when it would be impossible to know how to handle it, is horrific, be it beatings, humiliation or sexual abuse. These experiences stay with many children, through their teens right into adulthood, bringing up insecurity, anxiety jealousy and even threatening or violent behaviour patterns throughout life.
And maybe it’s here that your life gets stuck. In day-to-day situations where you feel insecure, anxious, jealous or violent you’ll probably revert to a behaviour pattern that you learned in your childhood. When you use that to deal with a current issue this is what you do…
You react – withdrawing or lashing out – even though you know the current situation has nothing to do with what is happening now, and before you know it you have lost an opportunity.
In the aftermath regret and depression set in. You might ask why this happens to you and why life is such a mess and why, every time things seem to get better something comes along and stops you from progressing. Within it all you might even be searching for the meaning and point of life.
If you search for the meaning and point to life and are stopped just knowing and believing the three points below is a very good foundation for your future.
1. I want to tell you that whatever life has dealt you up to this point, that your future can be brighter.
2. I want to tell you that you do possess a unique gift. I also want to tell you that you have a distinctive way of expressing that gift.
3. What might well have happened is that that gift has been buried underneath all the other confusion and chaos.
The last few years of my life have been dedicated to helping people from all walks of life, with all kinds of childhood and adult issues. The moments when they overcome what previously stopped them is very powerful. Their stories are amazing.
Whatever it is that stops you in life right now I hope this article has helped.
Love & best Wishes
Jo Ball (LCA, Dip)
Coach & Founder, Unstoppable Life
About the author:
I want to help you move on and become unstoppable. At Unstoppable Life, I am developing the next generation of people overcoming block in life and becoming more powerful than ever before. These people are discovering and defining their life purpose. Join my Fr>ee newsletter now at Unstoppable Life and explore my site and discover a mass of information that others are using to better their lives www.unstoppablelife.com
I’ve been shocked recently to discover how many women and men have suffered one trauma or another during childhood, in particular the amount that have been through abuse.
The experience of abuse, at an age when it would be impossible to know how to handle it, is horrific, be it beatings, humiliation or sexual abuse. These experiences stay with many children, through their teens right into adulthood, bringing up insecurity, anxiety jealousy and even threatening or violent behaviour patterns throughout life.
And maybe it’s here that your life gets stuck. In day-to-day situations where you feel insecure, anxious, jealous or violent you’ll probably revert to a behaviour pattern that you learned in your childhood. When you use that to deal with a current issue this is what you do…
You react – withdrawing or lashing out – even though you know the current situation has nothing to do with what is happening now, and before you know it you have lost an opportunity.
In the aftermath regret and depression set in. You might ask why this happens to you and why life is such a mess and why, every time things seem to get better something comes along and stops you from progressing. Within it all you might even be searching for the meaning and point of life.
If you search for the meaning and point to life and are stopped just knowing and believing the three points below is a very good foundation for your future.
1. I want to tell you that whatever life has dealt you up to this point, that your future can be brighter.
2. I want to tell you that you do possess a unique gift. I also want to tell you that you have a distinctive way of expressing that gift.
3. What might well have happened is that that gift has been buried underneath all the other confusion and chaos.
The last few years of my life have been dedicated to helping people from all walks of life, with all kinds of childhood and adult issues. The moments when they overcome what previously stopped them is very powerful. Their stories are amazing.
Whatever it is that stops you in life right now I hope this article has helped.
Love & best Wishes
Jo Ball (LCA, Dip)
Coach & Founder, Unstoppable Life
About the author:
I want to help you move on and become unstoppable. At Unstoppable Life, I am developing the next generation of people overcoming block in life and becoming more powerful than ever before. These people are discovering and defining their life purpose. Join my Fr>ee newsletter now at Unstoppable Life and explore my site and discover a mass of information that others are using to better their lives www.unstoppablelife.com
Does Lack of Confidence Stop You?
Ever had the sense that there is more to life than you’re experiencing?
Ever felt that there’s more out there for you to do, but never been quite sure of what that is? Or maybe you know what you need to do, but have been putting it off because you lacked the confidence to take the chance.
One of the biggest things in our way of exploring this path is our necessity to pay our bills. This usually means staying in a job or career that no longer fulfils us for a little while… usually forty years!
Another block to changing life might be your upbringing – maybe a parent who tells you that you need to stick with what you know – or a spouse who’d prefer you to stay the way you are and not follow your dreams, or friends who think that anything other than what you’ve been doing for the last few years is odd.
It can be quite scary to reach out for your truth. By your truth I mean your life purpose. What’s more, those around you might find it quite scary too – that’s why they try to put you off doing it. I mean can you imagine their faces if you suddenly became crystal clear, not only that you were going to change your life, but also knew how.
Imagine how powerful it would sound to them. Imagine the example you would make when you succeed. Imagine their faces then!
Living your Life Purpose is more than a career, but since you spend so much time earning money it is a key element.
The biggest hint I can give you to finding Life Purpose through work is to search for something you feel a deep pull and an undoubted passion towards. When you find that, many things will happen…
You’re health will improve. You’ll work longer, faster and harder than ever and love it. You’ll smile and laugh more and become a people magnet as you become more interesting and fun to be around.
Your confidence will literally rocket.
Begin by finding your unique gift and then explore how you can use that in a distinctive way to help others improve their lives.
Best Wishes
Jo Ball
Coach & Founder of Unstoppable Life
About the author:
Build your confidence through your life purpose with top UK coach Join Jo Ball at www.unstoppablelife.comStart to rediscover and understand the real you and step into your full power. It’s simple to do. Jo’s newsletter is full of tips stories and tricks on living Life Purpose. It’s FR>EE to sign-up and she’ll send you an e-book, Simple Steps to Greater Happiness as a thank you for joining give you a FREE Life Purpose Report.
Ever felt that there’s more out there for you to do, but never been quite sure of what that is? Or maybe you know what you need to do, but have been putting it off because you lacked the confidence to take the chance.
One of the biggest things in our way of exploring this path is our necessity to pay our bills. This usually means staying in a job or career that no longer fulfils us for a little while… usually forty years!
Another block to changing life might be your upbringing – maybe a parent who tells you that you need to stick with what you know – or a spouse who’d prefer you to stay the way you are and not follow your dreams, or friends who think that anything other than what you’ve been doing for the last few years is odd.
It can be quite scary to reach out for your truth. By your truth I mean your life purpose. What’s more, those around you might find it quite scary too – that’s why they try to put you off doing it. I mean can you imagine their faces if you suddenly became crystal clear, not only that you were going to change your life, but also knew how.
Imagine how powerful it would sound to them. Imagine the example you would make when you succeed. Imagine their faces then!
Living your Life Purpose is more than a career, but since you spend so much time earning money it is a key element.
The biggest hint I can give you to finding Life Purpose through work is to search for something you feel a deep pull and an undoubted passion towards. When you find that, many things will happen…
You’re health will improve. You’ll work longer, faster and harder than ever and love it. You’ll smile and laugh more and become a people magnet as you become more interesting and fun to be around.
Your confidence will literally rocket.
Begin by finding your unique gift and then explore how you can use that in a distinctive way to help others improve their lives.
Best Wishes
Jo Ball
Coach & Founder of Unstoppable Life
About the author:
Build your confidence through your life purpose with top UK coach Join Jo Ball at www.unstoppablelife.comStart to rediscover and understand the real you and step into your full power. It’s simple to do. Jo’s newsletter is full of tips stories and tricks on living Life Purpose. It’s FR>EE to sign-up and she’ll send you an e-book, Simple Steps to Greater Happiness as a thank you for joining give you a FREE Life Purpose Report.
Ditch Lack of Confidence and Unlock Full Potential
Being the next Carmen Electra or Paris Hilton might or might not appeal to all you, but there are things that do appeal to you, and you don’t do them.
Maybe this is because you lacked the confidence to reach out for it or maybe this is because you just we’re not sure it was right for you.
In this article I want to help you use lack of confidence as your indicator – showing you when you should clearly hold back and when you should go for it.
The first thing you need to get clear on is what you want. You need to know what your outcome is going to be. When I say this I don’t just mean in any old day-to-day situation, I mean in your life as a whole.
There’s an effective way to look at your life as a whole, gain clarity and boost your confidence all in one shot. Shall I share how with you?
There is nothing more effective in creating confidence than knowing how you want things to work out. When you do this you educate yourself. From the point of knowledge you can make an educated decision and literally pivot your whole life from where you are now to your ultimate destiny… and all the success and happiness you can imagine.
If you know clearly the ‘what’ and the ‘why’ of your life then you can look at daily events and never again need to consider if you have the ability or if you can or can’t pull it off.
When you know the ‘what’ and the why’ you look at life differently. You no longer look at your life and question your ability with can I or can’t I or could I or should I questions. Knowing ‘what’ and ‘why’ gives you a new kind of power.
When you know ‘what’ and ‘why’ you look at daily events and never question your ability. You do this because you now know clearly how life is going to be. The question you will now ask yourself is: will I? And this subtle question can change your life.
When you’re focussed on your meaning and direction instead of your level of ability your energy becomes channelled and focussed. It hones in on the outcome with such clarity that your chances of success literally explode.
The most powerful way I’ve found to find the ‘what’ and the why’ and you’re meaning and direction is to work on what your life is all about. You do this by discovering and understanding Life Purpose.
Life Purpose is based on the idea that you have a unique gift and a distinctive way of expressing it that will benefit others. When you discover and understand your life purpose you unlock your full potential.
Know what and know why.
I hope these words have helped you.
Love & Best Wishes
Jo Ball
Coach & Founder, Unstoppable Life
About the author:
Are you someone who wants to develop greater confidence? Jo Ball is developing the next generation of people who want to succeed in career, relationships and life through Life Purpose At Unstoppable Life. Join Jo’s Fr>ee newsletter now and discover what others worldwide are already discovering. www.unstoppablelife.com
Maybe this is because you lacked the confidence to reach out for it or maybe this is because you just we’re not sure it was right for you.
In this article I want to help you use lack of confidence as your indicator – showing you when you should clearly hold back and when you should go for it.
The first thing you need to get clear on is what you want. You need to know what your outcome is going to be. When I say this I don’t just mean in any old day-to-day situation, I mean in your life as a whole.
There’s an effective way to look at your life as a whole, gain clarity and boost your confidence all in one shot. Shall I share how with you?
There is nothing more effective in creating confidence than knowing how you want things to work out. When you do this you educate yourself. From the point of knowledge you can make an educated decision and literally pivot your whole life from where you are now to your ultimate destiny… and all the success and happiness you can imagine.
If you know clearly the ‘what’ and the ‘why’ of your life then you can look at daily events and never again need to consider if you have the ability or if you can or can’t pull it off.
When you know the ‘what’ and the why’ you look at life differently. You no longer look at your life and question your ability with can I or can’t I or could I or should I questions. Knowing ‘what’ and ‘why’ gives you a new kind of power.
When you know ‘what’ and ‘why’ you look at daily events and never question your ability. You do this because you now know clearly how life is going to be. The question you will now ask yourself is: will I? And this subtle question can change your life.
When you’re focussed on your meaning and direction instead of your level of ability your energy becomes channelled and focussed. It hones in on the outcome with such clarity that your chances of success literally explode.
The most powerful way I’ve found to find the ‘what’ and the why’ and you’re meaning and direction is to work on what your life is all about. You do this by discovering and understanding Life Purpose.
Life Purpose is based on the idea that you have a unique gift and a distinctive way of expressing it that will benefit others. When you discover and understand your life purpose you unlock your full potential.
Know what and know why.
I hope these words have helped you.
Love & Best Wishes
Jo Ball
Coach & Founder, Unstoppable Life
About the author:
Are you someone who wants to develop greater confidence? Jo Ball is developing the next generation of people who want to succeed in career, relationships and life through Life Purpose At Unstoppable Life. Join Jo’s Fr>ee newsletter now and discover what others worldwide are already discovering. www.unstoppablelife.com
Discovering the amazing benefits of womens shoes
I love womens shoes and in my lifetime will never own enough pairs.
Thousands of women every month search online for womens shoes. In turnthousands of listings come up and compete for that visitor. You could spend an entire day browsing page upon page of beautiful, colourful and stylish shoes.
Shopping online for womens shoes allows you to view an enormous range from designer shoes, dress shoes, high heel shoes, summer sandals, flip flops to running shoes, boots, golf shoes, slippers and pretty much any style of shoe you could imagine.
Online shoe shopping gives you shoes at lower prices than in offline shoe stores. Most give discounted or free shipping and lots of sites offer a free gift of some kind as an incentive to shop with them. Free handbags are the most common gift you can expect to receive with your new shoes. Bags are another story altogether but whats a shoe without the bag to go with it.
What you might not know however that in addition to the advantages of shopping online, there are some secret benefits to womens shoes.
Now I know it sounds a little odd that womens shoes have secret benefits but having researched this quite extensively I have come across some pretty amazing facts that in turn improve various aspects of your life.
Once you discover these facts you will change the way you choose your shoes and perhaps transform yourself a little too.
Something good is always worth sharing.
Some Secrets
Womens high heel shoes increase the lift of a woman’s bottom by 25%. Amazingly true when you wear a pair of high heels the height of the heel creates this lift. High heel shoes also lengthen the look of your legs and make them appear slimmer.
Womens cowboy boots will make any woman look sexier. Worn with knee length skirts these boots will give you a little heel height to create slimmer legs and give you sex appeal.
Finding the right pair of womens golf shoes could shed you 600 calories!
Investing in a pair of decent womens running shoes will lead to major life improvements generally and where your health is concerned.
Choosing the right colour shoe will improve other aspects of your life. For example
of all the colours in the spectrum green is easiest on the eye. Pastel green and other pastel colours will tranquilize energy whilst reds and purples will draw energy. Pinks will soothe emotions.
Womens shoes are about fashion, trends and style but there are major advantages to you if you choose them carefully and become familiar with some of the benefits they can give you.
I’ve created pages giving guides to womens shoes online and the secret benefits associated with each.
Check out the Womens Shoes Guru site and if you join today you get the chance to have a free pair of designer shoes.
About the author:
Shelley Costello lives in Leicester, England with her partner and two young children.
Shelley has built a site designed to give women an honest guide to womens shoes and some researched secret benefits that they have.
Shelley also owns a successful online womens clothing and accessories store.
Visit Womens Shoes Guru
http://www.womens-shoes-guru.com
Thousands of women every month search online for womens shoes. In turnthousands of listings come up and compete for that visitor. You could spend an entire day browsing page upon page of beautiful, colourful and stylish shoes.
Shopping online for womens shoes allows you to view an enormous range from designer shoes, dress shoes, high heel shoes, summer sandals, flip flops to running shoes, boots, golf shoes, slippers and pretty much any style of shoe you could imagine.
Online shoe shopping gives you shoes at lower prices than in offline shoe stores. Most give discounted or free shipping and lots of sites offer a free gift of some kind as an incentive to shop with them. Free handbags are the most common gift you can expect to receive with your new shoes. Bags are another story altogether but whats a shoe without the bag to go with it.
What you might not know however that in addition to the advantages of shopping online, there are some secret benefits to womens shoes.
Now I know it sounds a little odd that womens shoes have secret benefits but having researched this quite extensively I have come across some pretty amazing facts that in turn improve various aspects of your life.
Once you discover these facts you will change the way you choose your shoes and perhaps transform yourself a little too.
Something good is always worth sharing.
Some Secrets
Womens high heel shoes increase the lift of a woman’s bottom by 25%. Amazingly true when you wear a pair of high heels the height of the heel creates this lift. High heel shoes also lengthen the look of your legs and make them appear slimmer.
Womens cowboy boots will make any woman look sexier. Worn with knee length skirts these boots will give you a little heel height to create slimmer legs and give you sex appeal.
Finding the right pair of womens golf shoes could shed you 600 calories!
Investing in a pair of decent womens running shoes will lead to major life improvements generally and where your health is concerned.
Choosing the right colour shoe will improve other aspects of your life. For example
of all the colours in the spectrum green is easiest on the eye. Pastel green and other pastel colours will tranquilize energy whilst reds and purples will draw energy. Pinks will soothe emotions.
Womens shoes are about fashion, trends and style but there are major advantages to you if you choose them carefully and become familiar with some of the benefits they can give you.
I’ve created pages giving guides to womens shoes online and the secret benefits associated with each.
Check out the Womens Shoes Guru site and if you join today you get the chance to have a free pair of designer shoes.
About the author:
Shelley Costello lives in Leicester, England with her partner and two young children.
Shelley has built a site designed to give women an honest guide to womens shoes and some researched secret benefits that they have.
Shelley also owns a successful online womens clothing and accessories store.
Visit Womens Shoes Guru
http://www.womens-shoes-guru.com
Denim Is Big This Season - Dress It Up Or Down
For all you denim lovers, like myself, this is the season for you to shine. Denim is big this season. Denim has become a fashion statement of its own. No longer are we limited to boot cut, low rise, or relaxed fit jeans. It has come into its own - we can have denim hats, tops, belts, skirts, and even shoes. So wear denim with the attitude it deserves.
Many celebrities are really utilizing denim - they're dressing it up with embroidery, lace, fur, jewelry, accessories. What ever the heart desires. Dark denim, light denim, stone washed denim, colored denim - all good to go this season!
The gals can dress it up with pearls, the guys with a tie. Crystal or rhinestone jewelry will make you dazzling! Add some long fun beads, a chunky necklace, or an armful of bangles. Don't forget to accessorize. Add a hat, a belt, or how about suspenders just for kicks. Add a fitted blazer to that denim skirt, add some heals to your favorite pair of jeans. Try a pair of the ever popular wedge shoes with any of your denim items.
For women with small waists and wider hips Joe's jeans has a new jean line called "Honey Jeans" They are designed so they don't gape at the waist. They accomplish this by making a two part waist band which give them more of a curve. Low rise jean that truly fits the feminine form. Check them out. They run around $148.00 a pair and can be found online.
Paper Denim has grown in popularity and offers great body fits - Super low rise, low rise, x-low slash pocket, and x-low flare. As well as the trouser and boot cut if your looking for something different.
Marc Jacobs has a form fitting dress that is ever so sexy. Add a light cardigan for those cooler evenings and you'll look sensational.
There are a host of denim designers and manufacturers offering jeans of various cuts, mini skirts, bustle skirts, form fitting dresses, flowing dresses, capri pants, denim shirts, vests, hats, denim belts, denim shoes, the list goes on and on.
If you want to get some great ideas of what you can do with your denim I recommend you visit Misssixty.com Very interesting and informative site!
Denim is durable, wearable, comfortable, and now more than ever fashionable. So enjoy your denim and dress it up or down to whatever the occasion. Be certain to accent it with your favorite jewelry and have fun! Make your fashion statement!
About the author:
Sher from Estate Jewelry International has been serving customers for over 20 years, providing fashion, jewelry,and wedding help. Please visit us at http://www.estatejewelryinternational.com/
Many celebrities are really utilizing denim - they're dressing it up with embroidery, lace, fur, jewelry, accessories. What ever the heart desires. Dark denim, light denim, stone washed denim, colored denim - all good to go this season!
The gals can dress it up with pearls, the guys with a tie. Crystal or rhinestone jewelry will make you dazzling! Add some long fun beads, a chunky necklace, or an armful of bangles. Don't forget to accessorize. Add a hat, a belt, or how about suspenders just for kicks. Add a fitted blazer to that denim skirt, add some heals to your favorite pair of jeans. Try a pair of the ever popular wedge shoes with any of your denim items.
For women with small waists and wider hips Joe's jeans has a new jean line called "Honey Jeans" They are designed so they don't gape at the waist. They accomplish this by making a two part waist band which give them more of a curve. Low rise jean that truly fits the feminine form. Check them out. They run around $148.00 a pair and can be found online.
Paper Denim has grown in popularity and offers great body fits - Super low rise, low rise, x-low slash pocket, and x-low flare. As well as the trouser and boot cut if your looking for something different.
Marc Jacobs has a form fitting dress that is ever so sexy. Add a light cardigan for those cooler evenings and you'll look sensational.
There are a host of denim designers and manufacturers offering jeans of various cuts, mini skirts, bustle skirts, form fitting dresses, flowing dresses, capri pants, denim shirts, vests, hats, denim belts, denim shoes, the list goes on and on.
If you want to get some great ideas of what you can do with your denim I recommend you visit Misssixty.com Very interesting and informative site!
Denim is durable, wearable, comfortable, and now more than ever fashionable. So enjoy your denim and dress it up or down to whatever the occasion. Be certain to accent it with your favorite jewelry and have fun! Make your fashion statement!
About the author:
Sher from Estate Jewelry International has been serving customers for over 20 years, providing fashion, jewelry,and wedding help. Please visit us at http://www.estatejewelryinternational.com/
Define Me
We’ve all had a vision or a great idea and had someone who knows better squash it.
We’ve all decided to clear our debts and been tempted by the next great offer.
We’ve all been determined to save up for a holiday or some other thing that will enhance our lives and then been clobbered by a bill that sets us back a month or few.
We’ve all affirmed a diet in one moment and been offered chocolate in the next.
We’ve all ran a mile from heartache and nightmare, as well as from our dreams or love affairs and we’ve all laughed when we should have cried, cried when we could have laughed and ran ourselves into a downward spiralling place.
We’ve all judged ourselves too harshly: beaten ourselves up for what we’re not, what we don’t have and what we believe we can never be.
But let’s not do that anymore. Let’s resolve not to define ourselves by our weakest moments. Let’s resolve not to make harsh judgments on ourselves for our failings.
Should we really give ourselves a hard time – slaughter ourselves for trying, but not achieving? The answer to this my friend is no.
Life purpose is more important than all our outcomes. It’s more important than money, cars, houses, your children’s private education, your career success, holidays in the sun and all of the winning and losing in life. What is important is what we experience and how we change because of that experience.
Some moments in life are all about just showing up, or taking part. Some moments are about just hanging on, gripping onto what you have and hoping the pain passes. It’s moments like these that humble us – make us realise that maybe something else in our life had greater importance than our work, or the gadgets we crave or the TV soap operas that hook us.
But pause a moment, right here, right now and just mull over your day – not the results: the winning or the losing – but the choice whether to take action or not – and if you did define yourself by your decision to take action or not, what have you been today? Who have you been? What are you on the way to – a greater life or a more sorrowful existence?
I tell you this…
It’s not all about right now, or even today. It’s not even about looking at what you have done and understanding it better. But a life full of purpose is a life full of making better choices – choices from your highest place that line up with who you really are and what you really want to do with life.
I ask you: have you come to this point in your life, through all your toils, troubles and experiences, to be without a vision and be financially broke? Have you made it to this point to be hard on yourself, to be fat or sick or too feeble minded to stand up for your beliefs, your dreams and your hopes?
No.
What you have done is this: you’ve been busy defining who you are not. Because unless you define who you are not, how can you ever define who you really are. It is from within the definition of who you are not that you define who you are. And when you know who you really are you can begin living life, enlightened by your own sense of purpose.
In every thought you make a statement. In that statement you define your current belief. In every belief about your current situation you build your history and ultimately that history comes to this point…
To do or to die.
If you find yourself habitually saying:
I don’t have the confidence instead of saying, I’ll try,
I can’t afford that, instead of saying, I’ll find a way,
I don’t have the time, instead of turning off the telly, or
Diets don’t work instead of finding one that does;
Are you living or dying?
Ultimately what defines you is not what you achieved, but whether you live your life with purpose – making choices that bring you closer to the truth about who you really are.
Everything else is just existence.
What will you do improve in your life?
About the author:
Jo Ball (LCA, Dip) invites you to join her tips, tricks and stories newsletter at Unstoppable Life, free. And as a way of saying thanks for joining, she’ll send you the e-book Greater Steps to Happiness. Join now at www.unstoppablelife.com
We’ve all decided to clear our debts and been tempted by the next great offer.
We’ve all been determined to save up for a holiday or some other thing that will enhance our lives and then been clobbered by a bill that sets us back a month or few.
We’ve all affirmed a diet in one moment and been offered chocolate in the next.
We’ve all ran a mile from heartache and nightmare, as well as from our dreams or love affairs and we’ve all laughed when we should have cried, cried when we could have laughed and ran ourselves into a downward spiralling place.
We’ve all judged ourselves too harshly: beaten ourselves up for what we’re not, what we don’t have and what we believe we can never be.
But let’s not do that anymore. Let’s resolve not to define ourselves by our weakest moments. Let’s resolve not to make harsh judgments on ourselves for our failings.
Should we really give ourselves a hard time – slaughter ourselves for trying, but not achieving? The answer to this my friend is no.
Life purpose is more important than all our outcomes. It’s more important than money, cars, houses, your children’s private education, your career success, holidays in the sun and all of the winning and losing in life. What is important is what we experience and how we change because of that experience.
Some moments in life are all about just showing up, or taking part. Some moments are about just hanging on, gripping onto what you have and hoping the pain passes. It’s moments like these that humble us – make us realise that maybe something else in our life had greater importance than our work, or the gadgets we crave or the TV soap operas that hook us.
But pause a moment, right here, right now and just mull over your day – not the results: the winning or the losing – but the choice whether to take action or not – and if you did define yourself by your decision to take action or not, what have you been today? Who have you been? What are you on the way to – a greater life or a more sorrowful existence?
I tell you this…
It’s not all about right now, or even today. It’s not even about looking at what you have done and understanding it better. But a life full of purpose is a life full of making better choices – choices from your highest place that line up with who you really are and what you really want to do with life.
I ask you: have you come to this point in your life, through all your toils, troubles and experiences, to be without a vision and be financially broke? Have you made it to this point to be hard on yourself, to be fat or sick or too feeble minded to stand up for your beliefs, your dreams and your hopes?
No.
What you have done is this: you’ve been busy defining who you are not. Because unless you define who you are not, how can you ever define who you really are. It is from within the definition of who you are not that you define who you are. And when you know who you really are you can begin living life, enlightened by your own sense of purpose.
In every thought you make a statement. In that statement you define your current belief. In every belief about your current situation you build your history and ultimately that history comes to this point…
To do or to die.
If you find yourself habitually saying:
I don’t have the confidence instead of saying, I’ll try,
I can’t afford that, instead of saying, I’ll find a way,
I don’t have the time, instead of turning off the telly, or
Diets don’t work instead of finding one that does;
Are you living or dying?
Ultimately what defines you is not what you achieved, but whether you live your life with purpose – making choices that bring you closer to the truth about who you really are.
Everything else is just existence.
What will you do improve in your life?
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